The “Friend Zone” 0
In The Guardian, Jessica Valenti tries to make sense of men who are afraid to be alone with women just because they are women.
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And that’s the rub. To some conservatives, still, relationships are not about joy or friendship, mutual admiration or common interests – they’re about creating new citizens. “Get pregnant a bunch of times and give birth to a bunch of beautiful little future taxpayers,” (Federalist writer and Lutheran pastor Hans Fiene–ed.) Fiene instructs women.
That’s why I can’t feel too badly for men like this, who are missing out on rich friendships and connections with women. Because the reason they refuse to see us as friends is that they don’t really see us as people – just potential wives or objects or desire, virgins or whores.
This does not negate that there are some men who should not be alone in a room with women.
