The Bachelor Life 7

7 comments

1. Glomarization

   March 4, 2009 at 10:14 am

   Boy, is that a “blame-the-victim” article.

   I’ve found that I intimidate most of the men I encounter. They can’t keep up with me in a conversation, and they can’t beat me at Scrabble. They usually react by calling me a jerk — if they call back at all.

    
2. Frank

   March 4, 2009 at 10:51 am

   To tell the truth, I wasn’t able to finish the article.  The tendency of psychology to try to turn everything into a syndrone–or worse–is both laughable and harmful.

    

   Besides, most men are pigs.

    

   I am.  I’m just too shy to let it show.

    
3. Karen

   March 4, 2009 at 12:33 pm

   Since when?

   Men are intimidated by intelligence in a woman. It takes a very confident male to be a husband/partner to one, if he isn’t smarter than she is. Either confidence, or loads of sneaky to charm her somehow.

    
4. Karen

   March 4, 2009 at 12:34 pm

   Oh, I didn’t like the article either.

    
5. Frank

   March 4, 2009 at 3:05 pm

   Frankly, I convinced that the primary reason I have always shy around women, at least as regards the romantic boxing ring, has nothing to do IQ.

    

   It has to do with growing up isolated on a farm and having a high school dating life that ranged from lousy to almost non-existent.

    

   That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

    

   I think that, by the time people reach college age, their self-confidence or lack thereof in the romantic boxing ring is pretty much formed.

    
6. Karen

   March 4, 2009 at 5:34 pm

   The last paragraph I’d agree with, to an extent. Frank, you know Chris’ education level, vs mine. He’s smarter in common sense areas than I am, by miles. I’ve got it where the books are concerned. By the time he had reached ‘college age’ he had roamed the country, on his own. His personality had a lot to do with that. Personality that I saw duplicated the first time I met his mother.

   When I met him, the sneaky sucker used personality on me. (Still does, as a matter of fact.) He’s as extroverted as I am introverted. I don’t “mix” with people I don’t know. He’s never met a stranger. He can walk up to a group of people & find common ground.

   So in some ways, yeah being with people can help a person be more outgoing, but I really believe most of it is genetics.

    
7. Frank

   March 4, 2009 at 6:09 pm

   I don’t know about the genetics part.  I’m not taking issue, I just don’t know.  But I think a lot of those aspects of someone’s personality start to form very young.  You can see them in five-year olds at a swimming pool